During a quick stop at Target today, my oldest daughter and I bumped into The Boy’s preschool teacher from last year.
I asked about school, and she admitted it was a hard year. One of the moms, she said, passed away this week after a long battle with cancer.
“They were believers,” she said, “and modeled to all of us what really matters. They lived well. They made every moment count. They spent so much time together making memories.”
But that wasn’t all. She reminded me of a tragic local story associated with our recent snowstorm–a van slipped down a slope and into a retention pond. Nobody made it out.
The victims were her neighbors.
This was not the typical Merry Christmas exchange I’ve enjoyed while out and about–nor has it become the typical Merry Christmas blog post, now that I’m relating it here–but her words were powerful to me. Prior to crossing paths with her, my daughter and I had been thinking about games and gifts.
“Kind of puts all this in perspective, doesn’t it?” I said. “All of this [I gestured to the products hanging on the wall next to us] is just….stuff.”
She nodded. “It’s true. I keep telling my kids that we don’t need this. We need to be sure we’re focused on each other. That’s what counts. None of this [she, too, nodded toward the aisle] matters.”
Suddenly aware of how serious our conversation had become, she forced a grin and suddenly said, “Well! You all have a very Merry Christmas! No more snow, right?”
I nodded. She didn’t have to pretend to be “up.” I appreciated the honesty. I needed the reminder.
As I finish my shopping this week, I, too, need to remember that it’s all just stuff. I don’t know if my daughter needed to hear that, too, but she was standing there the entire time.
It’s all just stuff.
In the midst of the rushing, fretting, ordering, and wrapping, don’t forget about the best gifts, the truest, most precious gifts of family, friends, and faith.
They, not those items tucked under the tree, are the treasures.
For actual tips, return to Rocks In My Dryer’s last-minute Christmas edition.
Or poke around my collection of past Works For Me Wednesday ideas.






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December 18, 2007 at 11:49 pm
Ann @ Holy Experience
I too needed the reminder…and appreciate the honesty.
In the middle of all this stuff, is the Birthday Baby.
We live on a visited planet… may we visit–get close, intimate, personal–with Him who has come: Emmanuel, God with us.
And that’s the stuff that matters.
Grace and peace to you and yours, Ann…
December 19, 2007 at 12:15 am
Martie
Thank you for the reminder.
My best to you. Merry Christmas!
Martie
December 19, 2007 at 12:56 am
Rebecca
This is such a powerful reminder. In the rush to “get it all done” and “get everything caught up” at Christmas, we often lose perspective of the things that matter the most.
I just met with a group of ladies, 190 to be exact, all over the age of 50 and they voted on the top reason that they were a part of this group (I was the speaker) – it was the FRIENDSHIP. I almost cried. We are here for relationships…that’s the point isn’t it?
Thank you for your post and your reminder to me about the importance of relationships.
Might I suggest a great site with great perspective for you…iQuestions.com…I love this site and post frequently…hope to see you there as well…
Rebecca
December 19, 2007 at 3:02 am
Mommy Cracked
So true. And thank YOU for the reminder I needed.
December 19, 2007 at 7:00 am
Shalee
After Katrina, our youth group went down to help for a couple of weeks. One of the teens had a great epiphany: “It all just goes to the curb eventually.”
If I can remember that it’s all stuff to be tossed later, then that helps me to keep a good perspective on the things that really matter. Relationships – now there’s something that can last a lifetime…
December 19, 2007 at 8:05 am
phyllis
great post and a great reminder about the important things in life. thank you for sharing it.
blessings to you.
December 19, 2007 at 8:48 am
Heather@mommymonk
We need those reminders regularly – to keep our values in the right place. It’s great to enjoy the gift giving and all the trappings of this merry season, but we need to keep it in perspective. It’s all about the people we love.
December 19, 2007 at 10:48 am
ladonnamobile
What a beautiful perspective! We all need to remember this is “all just stuff.” Thank you.
December 19, 2007 at 10:49 am
Amanda Y.
This was beautiful ~ thank you.
December 19, 2007 at 10:53 am
beautifulheritage
Oh how sobering. And so true.
December 19, 2007 at 4:02 pm
Stephanie
So very, very true. Thanks for the wake up call.
December 19, 2007 at 4:05 pm
Sarah
Oh thank you. I try to remind my family about this every year with the bickering about who is coming when and what to get everyone. We need to all be reminded that the relationship far outweighs the “stuff”. Can I say “thank you” again?????
December 19, 2007 at 7:23 pm
Tickled Pink
Thanks for the gentle reminder. My head has been buzzing with extranious things, and this has put me back on track.
December 19, 2007 at 8:58 pm
Laane
So true.
Many years ago I lost two babies.
Each year I have the feeling that not my whole family is present.
It makes me so aware about the importance of the bond between us.
Feel welcome to visit my blog
Laane on the World
to see what works for me.
Merry Christmas
and a
Happy New Year!
December 21, 2007 at 1:20 am
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December 27, 2007 at 10:32 am
Mrs. June Fuentes
Great post!