After school a couple of days ago, the kids and I walked to a nearby pond. A layer of ice coated most of the pond. Near the edges, the ice was thinner, and the kids discovered that with a stick, they could chip at the edges and break off ice chunks.
They piled the chunks behind them for later use. They also speared leaves, pretending they were hunting for food in the deep, wintry wilderness. They piled those up, too. “It’s fresh kill,” they said. Handy.
Before long, they abandoned their hunting and returned to the edge of the pond. Ice chunks became the main draw, and they return to chipping and piling up a stash.
I walked with the dog around a manmade asphalt path while they worked.
When I looped back around, they were hurling the chunks and watching them pop and skid across the hard, frozen surface of the pond. Some of the chunks would shatter. Some would slide into the melted section near a drain. Some would swoosh across to the other side of the pond.
The kids used their sticks to shove some chunks forward, like a game of shuffleboard or curling, watching their polygon pucks slide toward the middle of the pond.
We were by ourselves the entire time, chipping, tossing, shoving, and cracking ice on a winter afternoon after school. We never saw another child exploring the area. A man walking a black lab passed by on the road, but that was it.
No one was around to imagine with us. No one else was with us to create a game out of nothing but sticks, dried leaves, and chunks of ice. Nobody was breathing in the crisp, fresh air or listening to the Shagbark hickory branches creak and sway.
Where are all the children?
I know it’s cold, and right now it’s very cold where I live. But I’m just curious, in general, does anybody go outside? Or do we all make a mad dash from the bus or the car to our homes, slam the door behind us, and make a mug of hot chocolate?
Not that I’d blame anybody for that decision. Because it really is cold.
I just wondered…as I sat inside sipping my own hot chocolate.






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January 22, 2008 at 9:04 pm
Llama Momma
I wondered the same thing on the sled hill this afternoon after school…where is everybody else?
January 22, 2008 at 9:23 pm
monica
watching TV or surfing the ‘net or playing video games. I never see young kids outside, except for the first grader, only-child from across the street who comes out mostly on the weekends. I suspect he has more fun inside. isn’t it sad that children seem to have forgotten how to make up a game?
January 22, 2008 at 9:43 pm
Tootie
I hate to think that playing outside is a lost art! But, like you, I ponder this as I sit inside a warm home…
January 22, 2008 at 10:44 pm
Regan
I have also noticed that I rarely see kids outside playing. I grew up with no TV, no computer, so reading books or playing with toys were my only indoor activities. My 15-year-old brother, who lives at home still, spends hours playing games on the computer. I guess that’s what the other kids are doing too.
January 22, 2008 at 11:20 pm
momteacherfriend
My boy spent an hour out there today, in the freezing cold. It was so cold I was left wondering if it was safe for him to be out today.
What really makes me sad is the middle of summer. That is when I wonder, where are all the kids?
January 23, 2008 at 10:13 am
TheChickadeefeeder
There aren’t a whole lot of snowmen anymore, either!
January 23, 2008 at 4:09 pm
Sue
I think that it is a combination of the attraction of technology and the lack of time/interest from parents to do things with their kids outside. I remember walking to the horse barn with my mom every afternoon to feed the horses carrots or walking to the library and exploring the wash between my house and there for frogs, lizards and such at least once a week…I remember jumping in the car and driving to the Redwoods for the weekend spontaneously. It seems as if kids lives are now overscheduled with organized activities (which may be where some of them are after school) or underscheduled because of overscheduled parents (who work and commute and get home just in time for dinner and bed). Its sad…but, I’m happy to hear you and your kids have time to enjoy the outdoors and all the wonderful imagination it brings with it!
January 24, 2008 at 9:42 am
blueraindrop
what i find a bit interesting in our area is that the kids i do see in the parks usually have the appearance of being lower income… meanwhile, the parks where the city has the most play equipment and space are always the most affluent areas…. rather than the areas where the kids are most likily to use it
January 24, 2008 at 10:46 am
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January 24, 2008 at 10:24 pm
Tickled Pink
I couldn’t find a link to it, but CBS Sunday Morning’s new Quick Draw feature this week was on the age of anxiety and how kids don’t get to venture out on their own. They showed how “grandpa” could travel out 6 miles on his own, “dad” one mile to school, and how now some kids can’t even go outside. Quite sad.
January 25, 2008 at 9:28 am
emily
Do you know who Charlotte Mason is? This post makes the me think of her ideas. If you’re not familiar, you should check her out. She’s known for influencing the homeschool movement, but she was a teacher first and had lots of ideas that placed a high value on nature and imagination and discovery.
February 6, 2008 at 11:59 pm
libby jane
I sometimes wonder if I take the kids outside too much! My kids are really little (3 and 1) but I just bundle them up as much as I can. We walk and bus everywhere we can, although we certainly do spend a lot more time indoors in the winter than the rest of the year! ( we live in Minnesota) In general, I figure that I can trust them that they’re not too cold, but there have been a few times when we’ve gotten too close to frostbite. I think they get numb and can’t feel that their cheeks or fingers are too cold. That makes it hard to play outside a lot in the deep winter.
Most adults seem to not spend as much outdoor time as we mean too either. Little kids’ habits, especially are usually a pretty direct reflection of parental habits. When we spend our free time outside, they will too, without even thinking about it.
At the same time, we live in a low-income neighborhood (relatively), and a lot of the neighborhood kids have so much more freedom than my kids will have. They spend all summer outside, running wild! Really, we talk about kids being overscheduled, but I know a lot of kids who have nothing to do, all summer long, so this phenomenon isn’t universal! I think their parents sometimes actually kick them out of the house because they are driving them crazy.
Even toddlers are often in the care of young kids, with no adults in sight. Their boredom and lack of structure leads them to a lot of healthy inventiveness! I’ll bet there are positives for them in this no-rules contact with urban nature that will never be quantified!
March 8, 2008 at 4:59 pm
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